Throughout my personal journey, I never could see how self-validation was a key missing aspect, which I lacked in my life how I personally operated until a few months ago, was having a subconscious need to be externally validated before I would feel positive about myself and the way I was moving through situations in my life.  I thought that I needed to be recognized by others as being worthy or that my thoughts or ideas on how to do things needed to be recognized by others and unfortunately for me personally this led me to live a very volatile life.  Where I never truly felt good enough, that my approach to things was never right, I would always put others' beliefs before my own unless they shared the same beliefs as me, and from what I have personally realized how destructive this was to my self-worth. 

I will put it like this, how can I ever feel worthy if I am always putting others' opinions or beliefs on how to do things before my own opinion or beliefs on what is the right way to do something?  This has had a very negative effect on how I subconsciously valued myself, and how I internally built up my own self-worth, the effects of this on my mental landscape have been so destructive, that I can feel like I am a highly valuable person and then bang I feel like the lowest most worthless person all because of a negative thought pattern.  This is the importance of self-validation, we should never seek to compare ourselves against another, unfortunatly our society is built on the need to validate externally, through schooling where my grades are not based on how I feel I did. 

But what teachers think is valuable, is determined not by truth, it’s determined based on what a textbook says, what an expert thinks and this is so so so destructive to our mental landscape.  What you think of the effort you put into your work means absolutely nothing unless you are saying word for word what a book says or what a so-called expert in the field says.  Unfortunately, this is a scam and a lie period, don’t you ever value yourself based on anyone else, every truly great human being in history and life has been different, and agreeing with others only leads to the promotion of those ideas and limits our natural expansion. 

The greatest lesson I learned from my 8 years at university was, teachers don’t know shit and they will lie, they will tear you down to force you into their mold of who society says you should be and what society thinks is correct.  I will point out the greatest realization that I had, which was trying to understand the scientific process, which if you ask society is fact.  Bullshit, science can only disprove things it can never prove something, I ask you to challenge any scientist to tell you unequivocally that what they say is 100% fact and truth that cannot be disproven. 

They can’t because in the real world, in life, in the universe they don’t know shit period and they front to us as if they know everything until they are proven wrong and then they turn to us and say oh I didn’t account for that.  Yet they tear down anyone with an opposing belief to them as if the other viewpoint is worthless, invalid, is downright a lie and are you seeing my point?  Society will make you feel like nothing if you don’t agree with their conscientious belief, if you dare to hold your own opinion the system will attack you, trying to limit the expansion of thought, not because your opinion isn’t valid, but for the fact that they cannot accept that other’s hold different opinions to their own. 

This is why your opinion and your beliefs have to be your rock, your foundation, and don’t you ever let anyone take the self-belief you hold away from you, prepare to fight, prepare to go to war with anyone who dares to take your light away from you.  For they do not live in truth, there is no truth in life, the only truth in life lives between your ears and can never exist outside of your mind.  You are the creator of your own reality, which means what is real is subjective not an underlying truth or truly real, everything is set in stone until someone chooses to challenge that consensus before they disprove what was thought to be real and society will never tell you that as to admit that strips them of their control over you. 

For if you knew the truth that life is life and things are just happening with no universal truth, that what is perceived as real is not truly real it’s just yours or my perspective of what we choose to think of as real is determined by what? What we can prove? What we can create?  Then by definition, if you can think it, it has already become real, your thoughts shape the construction of your concept of reality, what you believe sets the foundation of your reality, and what you feel emotionally internally fuels your ability to create your own reality.